As mentioned in the YouTube Community page yesterday, we will be trying out a weekly advice column where we try to give back to you guys by giving you our opinions with regards to problems or situations that you might be facing. It might be school-related, relationship problems, or even issues you have with your friends. But be warned though, we don’t necessarily have the solutions to your problems, but we hope that it will broaden your perspectives after hearing our opinions on the matter!
Upon making the post yesterday, I had initially expected it to take at least a few days before you guys will submit anything in, but behold my surprise when I saw that there were already 2 entries waiting! Hence, without further ado, let’s have a look at our first entry, by Low Yi Jun.
Hey Yi Jun,
I’m sorry to hear that things aren’t going so well at the moment. And I can empathise with that. But first and foremost, thank you for being willing to share this with us. I believe that being able to express your emotions is important to keep your mental state at an equilibrium, hence you might want to develop the practice of writing, or even exercising as an outlet to let your feelings out instead of bottling them up. Even if it doesn’t actually help solve your problems, at least you’ll feel better about it.
By the strictest definition, school is merely a place for learning. While it is encouraged (and also is important) that you develop interpersonal skills, socialise, make friends and create bonds with others, do not end up feeling pressured by the need to do so. This is simply because everyone develops at their own pace, and someone might take an hour to open up, but another might take a week to open up. It may seem weird to others, but you are your own person, so please feel free to just be yourself (as long as you don’t harm or disrupt anyone, of course). Secondary school is typically the time when we encounter peer pressure and the need to conform. If you don’t conform, you will be singled out and ridiculed. Even though it’s not going to make you feel any better, but know that you are not, and will never be the only one to go through this. There is really no right or wrong way to go about dealing with this. If you are comfortable enough with conforming in order to be part of the group in order to make your student life better, it’s one way to deal with it. But if you feel that you can’t bring yourself to do it, and you’ll rather put up with the ridicule, you’re not wrong either. But it is definitely the harder way out, but you will come out of it a much stronger person.
Like it or not, there is no easy way to get what you want. In the long run, you will realise that you will have to compromise certain aspects of yourself or even your life, and this will depend on which do you prioritise over others. Some might prioritise career over health, while some might value love over their career, etc. But take your time to find out what really are your priorities and then figure out what you should do to deal with your current situation.
As for your last question, everyone has their own idea of how schools should be like. But like it or not, in its core, a school is for students to pursue knowledge and learning, hence, results do matter as they are deemed as reliable benchmarks of each student’s capabilities. The results should matter to every student to a certain extent, in the sense that you should strive to do your best in school within reasonable limits. If your best is at 70, then strive to hit that 70. If your best is 60, then do 60. The reason for this is simply the availability of options. How our current educational system works (and to a certain extent, life) is that, the better your results are, the more options are available to you. You don’t even need to pick the best option, but you will at least have the choice to pick what you want. Isn’t that what everyone want for themselves? Just the option to choose what they want?
In the end, what I’m trying to say is that school is really what you make it out to be, and instead of being helpless to what’s going on, you actually have more power than what you think in determining how your school life turns out to be. It is tiring, no doubt, but since when is something worth pursuing easy to do. Good luck, Yi Jun!
Here’s the next one by Celine Ong!
It sounds really tough for you right now, but please persevere on. It is good that you’re pursuing further education for yourself. It will open a lot more doors for you down the road. Try to schedule your appointments and your revision sessions in a calendar. Because as loaded as your schedule is, I believe that there are still gaps of time for you to rest and relax. You will be able to identify those gaps in time to rest just by keeping a schedule, and you will already feel better knowing that despite how busy it is, you actually still have time for yourself. And good luck with your English test! Hope that you can make it!
Okay, this is a good start to the Advice Column, and really thank you Yi Jun, and Celine for your submissions! Feel free to share with us if you want to hear our thoughts regarding your situation! You can indicate so as well in the event that you don’t want us to reveal your names! Once again, the link to submit fan art, recommendations, or share your problems is here: https://noc.com.sg/submit-content/. Go click it! 😀