In this episode of Spotlight, we take to the streets to find out what the youths of Singapore think of section 377A. Some are neutral, some are for, and some are against.
“Don’t force your opinion down my throat and I won’t force mine down yours. Simple.” – @Crispayne.
Who is to say you can’t be neutral on this matter, that you have to take a side? Who is to say you’re “wrong” or “too liberal” for supporting the repeal? Who is to say that you’re “homophobic” or “conservative” just because you are against it?
“…at the end of the day this video is just to tell everyone to respect and listen to each other’s opinions…” – @Maxius 23.
Different opinions? Different viewpoints? Different camps? Here are 5 ways to approach such situations:
Respect each other
To each his own; let us agree to disagree. And when we disagree, let’s be tolerant. Tolerance does not mean acceptance, nor does it mean encouragement; and non-acceptance does not mean discrimination.
Have a conversation
“Arguing isn’t communication. It’s noise.” – Tony Gaskins.
It’s important to sit down and have a healthy, pleasant conversation about the matter. Differing opinions do not always have to lead to an argument; an exchange of words do not always have to lead to a heated debate.
Often in such cases, we let our emotions speak for us.
“There comes a point where emotions must give way to objective facts.” – Max Brooks.
To feel and emote is important, but we must not let it overwhelm us. Timeout! Pause, identify our emotions, and take a step back. Do not let them rear their ugly head.
p.s. In the event things turn nasty, and we blurt out uncalled-for statements/words that we might not mean, admit, apologise and remember to forgive yourself. We are not perfect beings; we make mistakes.
This is easier said than done, but let’s try to pry our closed hearts and minds open to different thoughts, theories, and ideas. No one view is superior than another.
Listen to understand
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” – Stephen Covey.
Make a conscious effort to truly listen to the other party. Do not interrupt or immediately jump in to share your side of the story or to prove the other party “wrong”. Allow each other to have a chance to air each other’s views. Listen and respond constructively.
Keep calm and carry on
At the end of the day, we cannot (and should not) force our opinions on one another. Life goes on. Let’s all learn to live harmoniously together, no matter what views we have, what camp we stand with.
(Writer’s note: A little something from me to you – be happy, smile always!)
Written by Krystin Lim for @spotlightnoc.